Thursday, February 09, 2012

Learning to Love

This life, that we lived in, is a University of Life. During our time being we have to always learn to survive, to be happy and to even enjoy it.
In this case, it's learning to love.

Why should you learn to love?
Well, that's a simple question, but there can be several complicated answers to it.
I think, in order to be happy we should know how to love. Love our family, friends, lovers, haters, jobs, foods, beautiful view, and etc, etc. In order to enjoy it. We have to know it, once we know it, we'll start to like it, and finally at a point we are gonna love it. Whatever that is. :)

Some people choose to chase for their happiness, some other choose to wait for it to come to them. Well for me happiness is what's on your mind, it's within you. You are the one who has the right to decide whether to be happy nor sad. To love or to be loved.

In the case of LOVE. There're also choices. You can either fight for the person you love. Or learn to love the person who loved you at first.
I have always been in the first category for years. Chasing, for the guy I liked. but always end up bad.
So, now I gave up chasing love.
I choose to go with the second category. When a guy comes, approaching, showing his attentions, his patience, his love to us. What should we do? Should we just smile, while trying to push him away? Or should we open our heart and let him love us? And at the same time learn to love him the way he loves me.
It's always better to just open your heart, girls. Being loved feels a lot better than chasing a guy who doesn't even care about your existence.
Being loved gives me more happiness.

I start to need his attention, demanding for more. Starting to be worried when he's feeling unwell. Starting to ask about his day, his daily activities. Yes dear, that's me, learning to love you.

When a woman is showered with love and attention, eventually, she will love the man who love and care for her.
But when a man is showered with love and attention by a woman, the possibility is he will never fall for you.
That's an ugly truth. But it's true, that's what usually happens around us.

So, why don't you just open up your heart, let people around you love you. If they're just strangers, get to know them, care for them and learn to love them.

That's what I'm doing now, learning to love you Man. With all the attention and every little story you shared with me every day, I ask my self, how can I not love you? For I know, from your attitude and even just your smile, that you love me, with all your heart. So dear, please hold my heart carefully, take care of it with your love. And I'll learn to love you the way you have been loving me.

Sunday, February 05, 2012

Crazy, Stupid, Love

Just watched this movie yesterday. Not expecting much from it, but a good laugh and some entertainment for my Saturday night.


The movie started with a scene at a restaurant, where Cal Weaver (Steve Carell) and Emily (Julianne Moore) were having dinner. Everything was okay, until Cal said, "Let's say what we want at the same time". He meant to choose what they're having for desert. He said, "Creme brule", while Emily said, "I want a divorce".
Then came an awkward silence. Things became weird and while they were talking on the way home, Emily told Cal that she was cheating on him with her colleague, David Lindhagen. Hearing this, Cal was pissed off. and jumped out of the moving car.


Long story short, they separated. Cal moved out. And tried to move on, by going to bars. Here he met Jacob Palmer (Ryan Gosling), a womanizer, who goes home with different woman every night.
Jacob told Cal that he should move on, and taught him how to gain back his manhood.
So, Jacob did a make over for Cal and taught him how to seduce women at the bar. So he can forget about being miserable.


At first I was a bit surprised with Carell's serious character here. But he did a great job playing a loving husband and a wonderful dad.
The idea for this movie was brilliant. I mean it was a common topic to be seen in romantic comedies, but how they present it, made it less boring. 
Here's one of my favorite lines from the movie.
Cal: I'm so mad at you. I'm really mad at you for what you did. But I'm mad at myself too. Because I should not have jumped out of that car - I should have fought for you. Because you fight for your soul mates. 
Emily: I miss you. 


Can't say no more. Just watch it, and you'll love it.


Cheers,
Zha